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Party In Your City!

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Want to find a party near you?

My parties are usually in NYC .

People often write to me and ask if I’ll come to their city and host a party. Thanks, dude, but I’m not going city to city hosting parties like a perverted johnny appleseed. :-)

Instead, I encourage people to find or host their own parties. The more people that host parties the better!

Hosting a party is a lot of work. However there are big rewards. Who knows? You might make some life-long friends!

Here is some advice I have about finding or hosting a party in your city.

Attend a local party!

Why go through the trouble of hosting a party There is probably a party near you that you can attend!

Here are some ideas:

  • A list of regularly scheduled parties around the world .
  • People often advertise small parties (or their desire to meet with a bud) on websites like BateWorld and jackinChat .
  • People often announce parties on Grindr . These are often one guy seeking folks to stop by his house or hotel. That can have great results!

Watch porn with friends!

Why host a party? Why not just get together with a friend or buddy?

  • Start up a conversation about porn with a buddy. There’s a good chance you’ll end up watching together. A lot of fun has started with “Oh, I’d love to watch that video with you!”
  • Make new friends on Grindr or BateWorld

Host your own party!

Ok, so you really do want to host your own party? Here’s some advice:

  • Start small. 2-3 guys is just fine.
  • Have it at your place. Can’t host? Get a nice, small hotel. Don’t go for an expensive or fancy once. People aren’t there for the room. They basically want to feel safe.
  • Safety first! Not just for you, but for the attendees. People won’t show up if they don’t feel unsafe. Help them feel safe by being open and honest about your plans, that this is your first time, and what your past experience is. Pick a nice, safe, location (not a sleezy or unsafe hotel).
  • Expect no-shows. Don’t be discouraged if people RSVP but don’t show up. People that have never been to a party are most likely to be a no-show. That’s ok. If 10 guys say they’ll come, probably 3 of them actually will. That’s just how it works.
  • Don’t worry about providing snacks. People aren’t there to eat. Do provide water.
  • Places to advertise:
    • Websites like BateWorld and jackinChat
    • Discord chat: Some Discord servers do not permit advertising in-person meetups. Ask the moderator where you can mention the party.
  • Have fun! Don’t forget that it is all about having fun. Don’t stress out. It takes time to plan these things. (unless you are on Grindr just saying, “come to my place to stroke)

Most importantly, report back on what you learned! I’d be glad to update this page!