Rules for bottoms/subs/sissies/pornosexuals

Rule 1. Be a sub, not a doormat.

  • Your job is NOT to say yes to everything. Your job is to communicate your needs, say “no” to things you don’t want, or hurt (in a non-fun way) or are outside of your boundaries or safety zone.
  • You can also say “I don’t know” or “Tell me more” or “explain that to me.” (it turns me ON to hear those words!)
  • When playing irl, use your safewords (see below).

Rule 2. Don’t ghost.

  • I expect replies within 48 hours of me sending you a message.

  • The response can be “I need more time” or “busy”. I’ll understand.

  • Of course, if you tell me in advance that you’ll be away or without internet access, that’s fine too.

  • NOTE: “I couldn’t get away to reply” is unexceptable. I can not believe that you couldn’t find 2 minutes alone to start up the Discord/Fetlife/Signal app, type “busy” and press RETURN. I get it… you’re not out to your family/partner/god/FSM/pets/whatever and I respect your need for privacy but be real.